Everyone has them: family members with whom you argue and whom you have not spoken to in a while.
Did you know that the days of ‘Eed are in fact the ultimate opportunity to bond with your neighbors and pick up where you left off?
Now some of you may say, “You don’t know what happened. He (or she) did many things to me. She said about my wife that … And I found out that he was against so-and-so said about me that …
I can list ten reasons why I never want to speak to him / her again. He / she just went too far. ”
Did you know that one of the companions experienced a similar situation and complained about this to our great example, the Prophet (salla Allaahoe ‘aleihi wa sallam)?
What do you think the prophet advised this companion? Has he advised him to persist in cutting off family ties or has he pointed out a very big reward for those who continue to maintain family ties?
It is narrated on the authority of Abu Hurairah (may Allah be pleased with him) that a man came to the prophet and said, “O Messenger of Allah, I have relatives with whom I maintain ties while cutting ties with me. I am good to them but they are bad to me. I am patient with them, but they are harsh to me. ”
The Messenger of Allah said, “If your condition is really as you say, it is as if you are feeding them burning ashes and Allah will continue to help you as long as you are in this condition.” [Muslim]
In other words, whatever you do, keep in touch with your family members and be good to them. If you want Allah to continue to help and support you regardless of the situation you experience in your life: maintain your family ties.
As for them, it is as if you feed them burning ashes, that is, they are attributed a sin for their behavior. But that is not relevant to you.
Do not focus on their wickedness to you that will cause you to break ties. But just focus on the goodness of Allah towards you the moment you tighten the ties!
“The real maintainer of the family ties is not the one who visits the person who comes to visit him. But the real maintainer of the family ties is (that you go to) the one who cut you off.” [Al-Bukhaarie]
“It is not allowed for a Muslim to cut off his brother for more than three days, that they meet and that this person turns away and the other person turns (also) away. And the best of them is the one who starts with the peace greeting. ” [Al-Bukhaarie].
In other words, the best of them is the one who first sends an app with an ‘Eid congratulation (to break the ice). The best of them is the one who visits briefly, “Ied Mobaarak wishes, eats shwa, and then continues.
Do it and you will get a lot of rewards especially on the days of ‘Eed.
And believe me: you will feel much better too.